It's official: I'm an artist.

Feb. 11th, 2026 12:44 pm
sistawendy: me looking confident in a black '50s retro dress (mad woman)
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Remember way back in early December when I submitted my art to the Seattle Erotic Art Festival? It’s been accepted! Well, for the exhibition shop, because I was too chicken to submit it for the main exhibition. But still, it feels pretty good. I’m, like, an artist or something.

So now I need to make another a trip to the craft store to get sleeves for my art, and then get them to SEAF. Unfortunately, delivery might not just be a bus trip downtown, and why?

Because I’ll miss SEAF this year in favor of recovering from facial feminization surgery. Yes, which will contain my art piece about gender dysphoria. The irony is not lost on me.
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Back in August of 2025, we announced a temporary block on account creation for users under the age of 18 from the state of Tennessee, due to the court in Netchoice's challenge to the law (which we're a part of!) refusing to prevent the law from being enforced while the lawsuit plays out. Today, I am sad to announce that we've had to add South Carolina to that list. When creating an account, you will now be asked if you're a resident of Tennessee or South Carolina. If you are, and your birthdate shows you're under 18, you won't be able to create an account.

We're very sorry to have to do this, and especially on such short notice. The reason for it: on Friday, South Carolina governor Henry McMaster signed the South Carolina Age-Appropriate Design Code Act into law, with an effective date of immediately. The law is so incredibly poorly written it took us several days to even figure out what the hell South Carolina wants us to do and whether or not we're covered by it. We're still not entirely 100% sure about the former, but in regards to the latter, we're pretty sure the fact we use Google Analytics on some site pages (for OS/platform/browser capability analysis) means we will be covered by the law. Thankfully, the law does not mandate a specific form of age verification, unlike many of the other state laws we're fighting, so we're likewise pretty sure that just stopping people under 18 from creating an account will be enough to comply without performing intrusive and privacy-invasive third-party age verification. We think. Maybe. (It's a really, really badly written law. I don't know whether they intended to write it in a way that means officers of the company can potentially be sentenced to jail time for violating it, but that's certainly one possible way to read it.)

Netchoice filed their lawsuit against SC over the law as I was working on making this change and writing this news post -- so recently it's not even showing up in RECAP yet for me to link y'all to! -- but here's the complaint as filed in the lawsuit, Netchoice v Wilson. Please note that I didn't even have to write the declaration yet (although I will be): we are cited in the complaint itself with a link to our August news post as evidence of why these laws burden small websites and create legal uncertainty that causes a chilling effect on speech. \o/

In fact, that's the victory: in December, the judge ruled in favor of Netchoice in Netchoice v Murrill, the lawsuit over Louisiana's age-verification law Act 456, finding (once again) that requiring age verification to access social media is unconstitutional. Judge deGravelles' ruling was not simply a preliminary injunction: this was a final, dispositive ruling stating clearly and unambiguously "Louisiana Revised Statutes §§51:1751–1754 violate the First Amendment of the U.S. Constitution, as incorporated by the Fourteenth Amendment of the U.S. Constitution", as well as awarding Netchoice their costs and attorney's fees for bringing the lawsuit. We didn't provide a declaration in that one, because Act 456, may it rot in hell, had a total registered user threshold we don't meet. That didn't stop Netchoice's lawyers from pointing out that we were forced to block service to Mississippi and restrict registration in Tennessee (pointing, again, to that news post), and Judge deGravelles found our example so compelling that we are cited twice in his ruling, thus marking the first time we've helped to get one of these laws enjoined or overturned just by existing. I think that's a new career high point for me.

I need to find an afternoon to sit down and write an update for [site community profile] dw_advocacy highlighting everything that's going on (and what stage the lawsuits are in), because folks who know there's Some Shenanigans afoot in their state keep asking us whether we're going to have to put any restrictions on their states. I'll repeat my promise to you all: we will fight every state attempt to impose mandatory age verification and deanonymization on our users as hard as we possibly can, and we will keep actions like this to the clear cases where there's no doubt that we have to take action in order to prevent liability.

In cases like SC, where the law takes immediate effect, or like TN and MS, where the district court declines to issue a temporary injunction or the district court issues a temporary injunction and the appellate court overturns it, we may need to take some steps to limit our potential liability: when that happens, we'll tell you what we're doing as fast as we possibly can. (Sometimes it takes a little while for us to figure out the exact implications of a newly passed law or run the risk assessment on a law that the courts declined to enjoin. Netchoice's lawyers are excellent, but they're Netchoice's lawyers, not ours: we have to figure out our obligations ourselves. I am so very thankful that even though we are poor in money, we are very rich in friends, and we have a wide range of people we can go to for help.)

In cases where Netchoice filed the lawsuit before the law's effective date, there's a pending motion for a preliminary injunction, the court hasn't ruled on the motion yet, and we're specifically named in the motion for preliminary injunction as a Netchoice member the law would apply to, we generally evaluate that the risk is low enough we can wait and see what the judge decides. (Right now, for instance, that's Netchoice v Jones, formerly Netchoice v Miyares, mentioned in our December news post: the judge has not yet ruled on the motion for preliminary injunction.) If the judge grants the injunction, we won't need to do anything, because the state will be prevented from enforcing the law. If the judge doesn't grant the injunction, we'll figure out what we need to do then, and we'll let you know as soon as we know.

I know it's frustrating for people to not know what's going to happen! Believe me, it's just as frustrating for us: you would not believe how much of my time is taken up by tracking all of this. I keep trying to find time to update [site community profile] dw_advocacy so people know the status of all the various lawsuits (and what actions we've taken in response), but every time I think I might have a second, something else happens like this SC law and I have to scramble to figure out what we need to do. We will continue to update [site community profile] dw_news whenever we do have to take an action that restricts any of our users, though, as soon as something happens that may make us have to take an action, and we will give you as much warning as we possibly can. It is absolutely ridiculous that we still have to have this fight, but we're going to keep fighting it for as long as we have to and as hard as we need to.

I look forward to the day we can lift the restrictions on Mississippi, Tennessee, and now South Carolina, and I apologize again to our users (and to the people who temporarily aren't able to become our users) from those states.

happy things and executive function

Feb. 10th, 2026 11:21 am
sistawendy: me smirking in my Hester Pryne costume (smartass hester)
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Cut deployed for meta-kink. )

Weekend plans: a COVID shot, plus coffee with two different friends from grad school days. Not that there necessarily won't be any less mellow outings: I ♥ 19hz.info. In particular, Saturday night at Pony looks promising. (That's a hint that you should join me if you're local & interested.)

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Feb. 8th, 2026 12:47 pm
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We're going to a superbowl gathering today. It's with the usual suspects, so it'll be a nice social gathering, which is the reason I'm going. I'm going to settle in a corner of the living room with my hand sewing project and be utterly confused by what is happening on screen; to say I'm not a football person is an amazing understatement. 

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I'm starting to feel much better thanks to the THIRD FUCKING ROUND of steroids and antibiotics. Everyone cross your fingers that this takes care of it all. But I still have to remind myself that I'm recuperating, and I've got :: waves hands vaguely :: the back thing, so I have to be even more mindful of what I do and how I move. I am very bad at remembering all of this.

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OH MY GOD I WANT TO DYE MY HAIR. But it's fascinating to see how much white has taken over the front of it. 

girls' night in

Feb. 7th, 2026 07:54 am
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Tacoma Girl came over to the Devil Girl house. Mental note: she likes Friday night KEXP more than Groove Salad on SomaFM; much local hip hop ensued. And unlike the poorer parts of Tacoma in the aughts, I can pick up KEXP over the air at my house just fine.

She actually apologized for drinking all my beer. "Nonsense," I said. "That's why I bought it." Indeed, I get Kolsch if she's coming. It's pretty good, but not my fave, and I'm not supposed to use it for making rarebit.

Did not overindulge, except in cheese popcorn.

shiny eats

Feb. 6th, 2026 06:42 pm
sistawendy: mirror selfie in my red latex dress, torso only (red latex torso)
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Dinner with the latex folks last night. All lovely, except restaurants aren't meant for people to walk around and socialize with all the other people. Not that we ever let that stop us, the difficulty of sliding past someone when you're both wearing latex notwithstanding. Herb & Bitter is a good place to get drinks, but I think I should have ordered one of the small plates instead of a big one; darn my geezer habit of eating early in the day.

It occurred to me while I was there that I've got three travel plans this year: Kinkfest in Portland in early April, surgery in San Francisco in late April and early May, and then Burning Man in Black Rock City, NV in late August and early September. Have I lost my mind? We'll see. It's likely that I'll be happier than usual to be huddled in my home during the darkness that begins in November.

Cute but kinda odd?

Feb. 6th, 2026 05:05 pm
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FB recommended the group "essa - comfort stuffed animal". It's exactly what it sounds like: do you have a stuffed animal that gives you emotional support? Talk and share photos in the group!

It's cute seeing everyone's photos, but ... DRAMA! Does your stuffed animal count as an essa if you haven't dressed it in a tiny "Support Animal" vest? Why did you pick that stuffed animal? OMG you aren't cleaning them the right commentor's way? If they're truly an essa, why are you asking for support or ways to feel more comfortable taking them with you out in the world?

Like, serious drama over these things. Which, of course, means it's a REAL online group/community, right?

(The tiny "Support Animal" vests that people think means their stuffed animals are more valid than others is WILD. Clovis Devilbunny thinks the whole thing is hilarious.)
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But today is not that day. 

I had an appointment with my GP yesterday, and after listening to my lungs and gently touching my face to check how inflamed my sinuses were (very, I winced away from her fingers every time), I have won yet more fucking steroids and antibiotics. I spent the night in a huge amount of discomfort (understatement), and I don’t know if that’s because of the heavy-duty antibiotics, or if last night’s dinner at a restaurant had something wrong with it. I felt unwell enough that I took today off, even tho’ I’m starting to feel a tiny bit anxious about how often I’ve had to tap out of work because of my health.

We also went over my MRI results, wheee. Bursitis in both hips, mild scoliosis, a few discs that have started to bulge, and more spinal stenosis than expected. In other words, my back is absolutely messed up. I spoke to one of of the patient advocates/scheduling specialists at the neurology/back branch of Virginia Mason (I’ve been in back and forth calls with them for a few weeks); consultation appointments are being scheduled six months out, and they can’t even start scheduling appointments for August until March. I’m less than thrilled.

Ugh. Bodies are stupid.

the "ook" of a database monkey

Feb. 5th, 2026 12:41 pm
sistawendy: me looking confident in a black '50s retro dress (mad woman)
[personal profile] sistawendy
Spent yesterday evening nomming teriyaki courtesy of the Wendling, shopping for snacks for future visitors, hoping I had an excuse not to go to Lambert House, and then going to Lambert House. The director had a random query to come up with a list of invitees for a particular activity, and the volunteer coordinator needed me to update income ranges. Yes, we have to collect data on how much youth, if on their own, or their parents earn.

Fun fact: you can do all kinds of gnarly multi-table operations (“joins”) inside one query against a real SQL engine. Microsoft Access’s subset (Ptui!) of SQL is more restrictive, but it appears to support named subqueries, which in many cases will get you where you want to go. I miss real SQL date handling, though.

The director has finally agreed with me that maybe getting off Access 2010 would be a good thing, and not even for the above reasons. It went out of support six years ago*, and the UI library that it comes with has bugs that'll never be fixed. Those bugs are what the director is responding to. I have a long list of my own reasons.

The director drove me home for the second time this week. Much appreciated, because that would have been two chilly waits for a bus otherwise.



*Ten years of support for a particular product isn't bad by industry standards.
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 Speaking of Venice Beach being a retirement village for urban fantasy protagonists, something pretty funny happened last Sunday. 
 
 
So, Titian and I had our jewelry sales booth parked next to two magical practitioners who we both know: N the energy healer, a very kind older Eastern European man who does chakra work, a straightforward sweetness and light Christian. Then there was T, who is interesting, he sells magical potions and powders, and does a kind of otherkin pop culture homebrew prophetic sorcery... and is also very Christian. In an eccentric way, but he's got a Bible right there next to the Key of Solomon. Then us. 
 
And this evangelical dude turns up to argue with N, of all people, and tell him he's going to hell. And dude does at least actually read his own religious text, at least, so he's admonishing N with Bible quotes. 
 
So N is talking back to him, holding his own, peacefully. All of us are watching, of course, because N is an absolute cinnamon roll and I think if someone hurt him they'd bring down the wrath of every other van dweller who isn't as pacifist as he is. I have a megaphone in our merch bag and if he looks more than mildly impatient at any point I'm gonna use it.

And then T steps in and gets the evangelical dude's attention. Dude moves over to T's booth and they get in an enthusiastic scriptural argument.

While all this is happening, the homeless guy who hangs out at our booth, who is also one of the most powerful practitioners on the beach if it's one of his better days, chimes in to talk about the archangel he channels, because, babe, this is Venice Beach, it was never not gonna get weirder.
 
And evangelical dude finally gets tired of being outclassed and moves on....

Then takes one look at our booth... Pride stickers, pentacles, interfaith esoterica, mushrooms, eyes... My femboy-looking ass behind the table in rainbow eye makeup...

We didn't bring the T-shirts that day, sadly, because I'm curious how he would've reacted to IF GOD GIVES ME A MANSION I PROMISE TO USE IT FOR EVIL SEX. But the vibes are enough. He gives up and walks away without saying a word. (That said, I won't take too much credit; T is a man of strong conviction and charismatic presence. I can't imagine wanting to get back in the ring for anything substantial after a religious argument with him.) 
 
I was a little disappointed, I was going to greet him like, "Hi, congratulations, you've finally found the heretics! Test your faith looking on our gay shit!"

At one point during all this I turned to Titian and said "This is what it must have been like at the first ecumenical councils", to which she agreed. Pure exegetic chaos.
 
Hilarious exegetic chaos, because even if the evangelical guy was a total killjoy, it's pure comedy that he skipped the atheists and Satanists twenty feet away and found a stretch of beach inhabited by a bunch of wizards who do actually earnestly believe in Jesus, in one way or another*, and have thought out their beliefs at some length.  

*Myself included; I just don't think Jesus' relationship to divinity was or is unique or non-replicable. This makes me a heretic in a lot of religions, which is even more fun than being a regular singly practicing heretic! 

I can has ticket to TTITD!

Feb. 4th, 2026 12:19 pm
sistawendy: me standing in front of a giant pair of wings at Burning Man 2007 (Burning Man wings)
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There's an old joke among Burners. What's the difference between a Burner and a hippie? A ticket.

For the first time in eight years, I can say that I just stopped being a hippie. And it only took me ten minutes, as opposed to one or two years in the early teens when it took hours.

So yeah, I'm committed. I'll be meeting with my camp a couple of weekends hence. I have questions. Time to scroll down my spreadsheet of doom and start knocking off items, green background first, yellow background as various conditions are met.

Aw, yeah.

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Feb. 4th, 2026 02:21 am
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You can buy Kirkland Signature paper towels on Temu from a "local vendor", presumably someone drop-shipping them from Costco. They cost about $10 more than the regular price but if you manage to get on the rolling credit deal you only pay for about 10-15% of your whole purchase amount - as long as you don't mess up on claiming the rebate. So next time we're out of paper towels I may get to pay about $4 actual cost. 

The Chinese government is probably subsidizing this purchase from a US middleman to a US buyer, of which most of the price goes into Costco's pocket, since I can't imagine a shoplifting ring going after these packages. (They're volumetrically about the size of my partner, a small adult human. I can barely wrestle them into the shopping cart when I go to Costco in person.) 

Weird time to be alive!

Another seller has a 1.75 oz jar of Maison F Crayssac truffle caviar (list price $25) going for $100. I admire the chutzpah. It'd only be about $12 actual cost after everything averaged out, but I have a tiny jar of potent truffle aioli that I got for $2 at Grocery Outlet and it is already as much truffle as I need in my life. 

Do be aware, not every deal is good at the end of the day, occasionally you will be sent the stupidest substitutions so never rely on a Temu order for a time-sensitive need, and actually "winning the game" takes being thoughtful and methodical. 
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[staff profile] mark posting in [site community profile] dw_maintenance

Hi all!

I'm doing some minor operational work tonight. It should be transparent, but there's always a chance that something goes wrong. The main thing I'm touching is testing a replacement for Apache2 (our web server software) in one area of the site.

Thank you!

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Feb. 3rd, 2026 04:40 pm
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Every so often I miss hypomania. 

Just when I have a lot of stupid stuff to get done and no energy, really, and I do remember enough to know that 6 hours is useful and anything after that mostly isn't. Just. I remember Getting Shit Done.

Also not sleeping and being a total bitch, but still.

to-do list explosion

Feb. 3rd, 2026 12:08 pm
sistawendy: me in the Mercury's alley with the wind catching my hair (smoldering windblown Merc alley)
[personal profile] sistawendy
I need to:
  • Buy my Burning Man ticket tomorrow if at all possible.
  • Do two database-related chores for Lambert House, one of which promises to be a pain because they're using Microsoft Access and not real SQL. The other promises to be a pain because Access shuffles the Z positioning of UI elements if you touch anything.
  • I need to clean house because both Tacoma Girl and Dancer are coming over this weekend. (Not together.)
I've also committed to showing up for latex dinner; I could back out in the next 30 hours or so, but I don't waaaanna.

Oh: have any of you folks who've ever had highish estrogen levels ever had a day where you seem to... stop retaining water? That is, you pee a whole bunch and then you're suddenly lighter? That happened to me last night. Curious.

Another oh: Lambert House groups seem to be reaching the point where in-person attendees outnumber online attendees. I'm OK with that, honestly. Just three more of these for me until we're back in the house.

an OK weekend

Feb. 2nd, 2026 02:23 pm
sistawendy: me in profile in a Renaissance dress at a party (contemplative red)
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I got my hair done and hit the Mercury on Saturday night. The was (ahem) one queer makeout, but there was also an unacceptably long wait for the bus home. I spent yesterday doing Sunday chores and catching up on sleep.

I have many plans for this coming weekend. If I were a good girl, and sometimes I am, I would use the current Github outage to clean house a little. I will have visitors – plural, even.

Oh: Good Sister gave me a belated birthday call. ♥! Our parents are still dead, the will is still executed, and Mom's house is still sold. It's so nice to talk to GS about things like David Lynch movies and getting my face rearranged.

a nunly anxiety dream

Jan. 31st, 2026 08:22 am
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I dreamt my checking account was overdrawn because I'd spent too much on latex. I'll have you know, reader, that I haven't bought any since September, nor was I planning to. Sheesh.

Edited to add: I've been sleeping super well lately. Lower hormones or more blankies? Time will tell.
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